Do more of what you love

I’m often asked for advice on how to opt in. I mean, I guess we can sort of figure out the opting out part on our own. In theory at least, since it’s easier said than done. But how does one opt in? How does one even figure out what to opt in to?

Well, I’m usually very reluctant to give advice about opting out and in. I study the phenomenon, but as I’ve said a number of times before, I’m not an opting out coach. When people opt out and in, they usually feel a sense of urgency, and when that happens, things generally have a way of sorting themselves out because they have to.

But as I was planning my talk for my event last week, I started thinking about my own opting out and in journey and how I as a person have grown during this time. I have learned so much on my journey, not least about myself, and I realized that I have had many valuable epiphanies that I can share.

So here goes. Lessons I have learned about finding your way and life in general:

  • You need to do things, anything, because action leads to opportunities. When it comes to finding whatever it is you are looking for, doing something is better than doing nothing.
  • You need to try things. When opportunities present themselves give them a chance. Even if it seems crazy or out of character, if it is something you think you might like, jump! This does not mean giving everything else up, it just means giving things a try. Kind of like my silk painting. I jumped, I’ve been doing it on the side, and it’s lead me to places I’ve only dreamed about.
  • You need to not listen to your inner critic. He/she is not your friend! It does not matter if you don’t have the formal training, if the competition is tough, or if there are others who are better at it than you. Try it anyway! Otherwise you’ll never know. Besides, doubt is an essential part of every creative process.
  • You need to do more of what you love. When we do things that make us happy, we tend to get good at it just because we do it a lot. And the reason we do it a lot is because we love doing it. Not only that, you also tend to love things you’re good at, so it quickly becomes a good circle, as opposed to a viscous one.
  • You need to talk about it. Tell people! Talking helps shape your thoughts and ideas. You’ll also realize what a great idea it is when you see the other person getting excited about it. You’ll realize that your crazy idea isn’t that crazy after all! And they might know of opportunities or people who can help. Or they might be able to help. This is often how opportunities appear.
  • Don’t wait for the perfect time or for whatever it is you’re doing to be perfect. If you do, it will never happen. You need to just start and you can fix and tweak as you go along. Besides, I’m a firm believer that beauty lies in the imperfections.

4 thoughts on “Do more of what you love

  1. Thank you. Good to read and hear about these experiences and advices. Sometimes it´s hard to keep on remembering and believing, that hey, actually by doing what you love or at least like quite a bit, you might be able to make a living. It´s important to get this kind of affirmation from the others, who have experienced it! 🙂


    • Thank you so much for your comment! It’s true that we need affirmation every once in a while because we all have doubts all the time and you have to be reminded that it’s normal and that it doesn’t mean you aren’t on the right track. I have good days when I feel confident and like I know what I’m doing and then I have bad days when I think what on Earth am I doing? And I have to remind myself that that is normal too. Your comment helped make it a good day! 🙂

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  2. Thank you for your post! Very encouraging and my experience is fully supporting your words. When we are getting brave enough to follow our dreams and do more of what we love, we developing a wonderful habit of doing more of what we love, and then it is becoming a part of us: we just keep doing it and find the ways to do more of what we love.


    • Thank you, Natalia! It’s great to hear that you could relate to my post! I agree with you, and I also think you get into a habit of considering what is important to you and where you are and aren’t willing to compromise. At least that’s the way it’s been for me!


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